When God Prepares Two Hearts at the Same Time

God does not improvise vocations.

When the Lord places in your heart the longing to share your life with someone, it is He Himself who planted it. But desire does not mean immediacy. It means process.

We want what is immediate. God works in processes.

We want results. God shapes hearts.

Preparation is necessary!!!!

God prepares... and He prepares you

While you are thinking about the person you long to share your life with, God is working in two directions at the same time.

He is preparing that person.

And He is preparing you.

And many times the deepest preparation is not finding the other, but becoming someone capable of loving correctly.

The Word reminds us:

“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.” Ecclesiastes 3:1

God is a God of order. A God who seeks your true happiness, not your fleeting emotion. And deep happiness is not built in a day, but in a process of spiritual maturation.

Pray actively

Many people pray by saying:

“Lord, send me a good person.”

But to pray actively is something much deeper.

To pray actively is to say:

“Lord, shape in me the heart that the person You have in mind for me truly needs.”

Many say:

“I want a Saint Joseph.”

“I want a Mary.”

But the real question is:

If you are looking for a Saint Joseph, are you already a Mary?

If you are looking for a Mary, are you already a Saint Joseph?

You cannot ask for virtues that you yourself are not willing to cultivate.

Because if you are not prepared, even if the right person walks right past you, you will not recognize them.

Your eyes will be blindfolded by your wounds. Your ears will be full of voices that do not come from God.

Waiting purifies the way you see

When the heart matures in prayer, in reading the Word, in daily conversion, something changes: discernment becomes sharper, the will grows stronger, the affections fall into order. And then you can walk step by step:

First, friendship.

Then a courtship according to the will of God.

A courtship lived in chastity, where respect and purity build solid foundations.

And finally marriage, where intimacy is a holy gift, blessed by God, lived in faithfulness and total self-giving.

Intimacy is not something trivial. It is sacred. It is a gift. It is sanctification when it is lived within the order willed by God.

The greatest mistake in relationships

There is a very clear sign that the heart is ready to love correctly: when you no longer seek in the other person what only God can give you.

When you feel fulfilled in the Lord, when you have learned to be at peace with yourself, when your joy does not depend on someone else's presence, then you are in a position to enter a relationship from freedom and not from need.

The sign is not urgency, but interior stability. It is not the feeling of loneliness, but serenity.

When you feel that nothing is missing because God has ordered your interior, that is a sign of maturity. You do not enter a relationship to be completed, but to share what you already are.

We enter many relationships with the wrong phrase:

“I want to be happy.”

But waiting on God teaches you something radical:

You are already complete in Him. You are not waiting for someone to make you happy. You are waiting to become someone capable of making the other person happy.

When a person enters a relationship looking for the other to fill them, they inevitably end up demanding.

But when they enter from fullness, from friendship with God, from interior maturity, they enter to give of themselves.

And when two people enter like that, happiness is not demanded. It is shared.

Do not be afraid to wait. Be afraid of choosing without having matured.

Because what is built without process crumbles easily. But what God builds in the right time endures.

“For the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens toward its fulfillment and will not fail. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come and will not delay.” Habakkuk 2:3